We Need Your Help to End Child Marriage
Bill Barely Passes State House, Now on Governor's Desk

Among my duties as CEO of the Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy (OICA) is sharing the message of how to be an advocate. Other than this weekly column and social media posts, I often present advocacy tips to civic organizations.
I want to thank the Rotary Clubs of Northwest Oklahoma City and Duncan for inviting me to be their speaker about OICA’s history and mission to encourage citizens to become advocates.
Many Oklahomans were active working to influence lawmakers on several youth-related legislative ideas this year, some for the first time in their lives. One such bill is Senate Bill 504, written by Sen. Warren Hamilton, R-McCurtain, and Rep. Nicole Miller, R-Edmond, which would prohibit marriage for anyone under 18 years of age.
The measure removes existing exceptions that allow minors to marry with parental consent or court authorization. The bill passed without opposition in the Oklahoma Senate but received the bare minimum votes to pass in the House of Representatives with 51 yeas; 36 representatives voted nay. The bill is now on Gov. Kevin Stitt’s desk.
Some supporters of child marriage pointed to “parents’ rights” to allow their children under the age of 18 to marry, no matter how old the prospective spouse might be. While supporters of child marriage cited successful stories of lifetime of happiness despite significant age gaps, this appears to be the exception rather than the rule. Facts paint a very different picture.
Estimates show one-in-five girls worldwide under 18 is married, a number that doubles in undeveloped countries and conflict zones. This means millions of girls are married before 18, with a significant proportion sold by parents due to economic desperation. These cases are often linked to poverty, lack of education, and cultural norms. In some cases, families sell daughters to pay for sons’ education or to secure a dowry.
Marriage for those under the age of 18 was legal in all 50 U.S. states until 2017. But since 2018 and up to 2025, 16 states have ended child marriage without exception. Freedom United, a national effort to eliminate child marriages, reports Oklahoma, California, New Mexico, and Mississippi have no minimum age for marriage.
A 2024 study by Unchained at Last indicated that Nevada, Idaho, Arkansas, Kentucky, and Oklahoma had the highest rates of child marriage per child population. From their website, 314,154 children as young as 10 were legally married in the U.S. between 2000 and 2021. An overwhelming majority – some 86% – were girls, and most were wed to adult men.
Many were not legally old enough to consent to sex with their spouse, with least 66,415 marriages occurring at an age or with a spousal age difference that should have been considered a sex crime. When you break this down, 90% of them represented a “get out of jail free” card for a would-be child rapist who under each state’s laws would allow within marriage what would otherwise be considered statutory rape. This is pedophilia made legal by marriage.
An advocate for this bill contacted me and asked for OICA to support this effort to end child marriage, which we enthusiastically agreed to do. She shared that she survived this complicated nightmare, with great cost to her physical, mental, and spiritual health.
By 17, she had two children. At 18, she left that marriage when she legally could, but would go on to experience homelessness, exploitation, further abuse, and great difficulties that would take many pages to describe. She was robbed of a childhood, an education, dreams, peace, and basic protection. Eventually, she found herself, a single mother of six children, in a battle to survive. She did, but it was not easy. She is one of the survivors.
We at OICA ask that you contact Governor Stitt’s office at https://oklahoma.gov/governor/contact/leave-a-comment-or-opinion.html or by phone at (405) 521-2342 to share your thoughts on this legislation to end the practice of child marriage in Oklahoma.











